Letting Go of the Struggle
How are you? Thank you for taking the time out of your full schedule every month to connect with me in this way. It is truly one of the highlights of each month for me, and I always look forward to it.
I am deeply grateful to you for allowing our friendship to continue to blossom.
Energetically speaking, what was your experience like during the month of October? If it was a challenging one, then you are definitely not alone.
The celestial happenings for October included two eclipses, among other astrological alignments, such as Mercury in retrograde, and the biggest solar flares recorded in decades. It's safe to say that it was a month of immense expansion.
When moving through certain energy cycles, the expansion we experience can feel less joyous in the beginning, and more like we are being stretched to the max.
It's during these times that taking frequent breaks, and nurturing and pacing ourselves become our saving grace.
With all of that said, once the dust settles, a new level of peace, love and connection emerges within us that transcends what any words could describe.
It makes any challenges we faced seem less powerful and imposing.
Even if it's only for a brief moment, when this "clarity" emerges, it's important to celebrate it. The act of celebrating those special moments, hours, days, weeks or even months of bliss we experience, will provide the mind with a reference point that is easy for us to access at a later time, when things may again feel a bit less joyous.
It also expands on that which we are celebrating, so that more of those experiences can begin showing up in our lives.
In the previous Energy Forecast, we talked about how the energies are giving us the opportunity to look at our relationships from a higher perspective.
We asked questions such as: Are these relationships operating from a space of integrity, honesty and mutual respect?
Is it time to move on from certain belief systems, people, places and experiences that no longer feel to be in resonance with where we are in our lives?
We are most likely receiving the answers to those questions now. If we aren't, we might ask ourselves something like, "What am I not to allowing myself to see?" Or, "What am ignoring?"
These questions help us pierce through the illusions and into the truth of who we are choosing to be.
Letting Go of the Struggle
The days of struggling are no longer necessary. There was a time when experiencing hardship was an important part of our expansion process. And of course, for some it will continue to be so, until they choose otherwise.
However, our personal and collective consciousness has now risen to the degree that the lessons we are meant to learn in life simply don't need to be over-the-top dramatic anymore.
I remember the days of wanting to "fit in" or "receive approval" from others. I used to bend over backwards to be what everyone else wanted me to be, and I'd end up selling myself short every time, feeling completely exhausted and unhappy on all levels.
It was only when I began seeing the value and worth in being my true authentic self that every door to living my greatest life potential opened up.
That is when I truly became free. That is what I also see happening for you, my friend.
As mentioned earlier, the consciousness of the world as a whole is now resonating at a higher frequency. This means that the "fighter" and "savior" archetype roles that many of us took on as a major part of our identity need no longer be the main outfit that we wear.
That's not to say that everyone will want to release the identity of being the one who struggles. However, those who feel that they have learned the lessons from identifying with this archetype, and are ready to allow more ease, joy and love to enter their lives, will be able to do so with less effort.
For some, letting go of the struggle may leave their mind feeling a loss of self identity. Know that this is absolutely OK.
The key is to give the mind time to grieve. Then, as things start to feel a little more stable, we can begin letting the mind know that it has lost nothing by releasing its identity of needing to struggle, and that it has actually gained so much.
If we are someone who finds themselves still struggling and experiencing much difficulty in life, and are ready to release this struggle, it might just be that at some point, we unconsciously took a vow or oath to remain in the vibration of one who has to struggle. There could be some past life experiences or religious patterns that are still carrying over into this lifetime.
If we do feel we've taken on some of those vows, we can:
1. Ask the Universe to make us open and available to learning the lessons quickly, so that we no longer need to keep recreating them, and
2. Set the intention that all our vows be resolved and released once and for all.
When we mindfully set intentions such as these on a consistent basis, we set things into motion so that those old patterns can begin to resolve and dissolve even faster.
A big part of letting go of the struggle is to let go of being co-dependent in our relationships. There's a push-and-pull that occurs when people start to become co-dependent on one another. In fact, a great deal of our sense of self gets lost in that process.
When we take full responsibility for our own happiness, and no longer seek to find it in others, true freedom is found.
Now, the mind will come up with every excuse to say things such as, "Well, you don't understand my situation. I have to live with my parents because I'm not making any money." Or "I love my partner so much and can't live without them, but they just aren't doing what I want them to do."
Do any of these ideas sound familiar? Whether we have experienced those situations ourselves or we know someone who has, those beliefs are simply an easy way to not take full responsibility for our own happiness.
There's also the idea the mind likes to come up with sometimes, that if we are emotionally independent, then we will be alone. So the fear of being alone then begins making all the decisions in our lives . . . which results in us being miserable, and consistently expecting things outside of ourselves to make us happy.
I know this can be a bit of an uncomfortable subject to reflect on, however it's important to shed light on it and be truthful, so we can heal it completely!
To begin building emotional independence, it's imperative for us to remember to turn within to find our core emotional strength, instead of looking for it outside of ourselves.
Here are some simple yet super-effective ingredients that can help us begin building a healthy emotional independence:
1. Choosing to make ourselves a priority, through consistent acts of self-care, self-love and self-acceptance.
2. Releasing the need to always be right, and having to prove ourselves.
3. Letting go of the pressure we place on ourselves to be perfect.
4. Integrating creative expressive, fun and play into every single day.
5. Setting and achieving goals.
6. Sharing love and compassion with others, without buying into illusions of fear and exchanging lack-based stories.
7. Consistently choosing to look and feel your best, for YOU. We can achieve this through nourishing our bodies with super-healing foods, exercise/moving the body, and taking care of our physical aesthetics, so that we reflect to the outside world the beauty we have always carried on the inside.
8. Expressing gratitude to the Universe every day.
9. Changing up our daily routines every few days, to keep things fresh.
If we remain consistent with these 9 ingredients, within 28 days, the seeds to becoming emotionally, physically, mentally and financially independent will be fully planted.
As we move into the next few weeks, lots of things will continue to change.
But the one thing that will remain constant is the love the Universe is drenching us with daily.
Take good care, and we'll be in touch again soon.
Till next time,